dhhan pir eaehi n aakheean behan eikat(h)ae hoe ||
eaek joth dhue moorathee dhhan pir keheeai soe ||3||
They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together.
They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies. ||3||
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This Shalok (verse)  has been written to show the relationship between the God The Husband (Khasam) and the soul bride (Suhagan), and not the relationship between the husband and wife.  The worldly relationship between the husband and wife has been very clearly mentioned

 

  koorr meeaa koorr beebee khap hoeae khaar ||

False is the husband, false is the wife; they mourn and waste away.

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SGGS 468

This Shalok has nothing to do with the relationship between husband and wife.  It is explaining the pious relationship between Suhagan (God’s bride)– Jive Atma (soul) and Khasam (Immortal God The Husband). 

Now there is only one Husband – God we are all unmarried souls (Dohagans). And those who become God’s bride (Suhagans) and then remain forever as God’s wife (Sada Suhagans) become so by virtue of their spiritual efforts  (Bhagtee).

The devotee will become the bride of God (Suhagan) in the fourth realm.  Which is the realm of Grace (Karam Khand). And then they become God’s wife for Eternity (Sada Suhagans) when they merge into the fifth and ultimate realm of Truth (Sach Khand) where God himself resides.  

When a soul becomes God’s wife (Sada Suhagan), it merges with the Immortal Timeless Being (Akal Purakh).  It becomes one with Akal Purakh, and that is what the Guru is referring to in this verse.

We have also written an article below on Union of Male (Nar – God) and Female (Nari – God’s wife -Sada Suhagan).  We explained the four marriage rounds (lavaa) as described in Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, and we hope that you must have read that, if not please read it again to understand the real meaning of the marriage.

Dassan Das