There is only one “Nar” (Husband) or “Pati Parmesar” (God The Husband) and all of us are the “Nari” soul-brides. We all have been departed from Pati Parmesar, so we should be making efforts to go back to Pati Parmesar and be His Bride – “Suhagan” and then become that for eternity “Sada Suhagan”.
The marriage verse written in the Gurbani is the marriage of the Nar – Pati Parmesar with the Nari.
In the first round of the marriage ceremony,
the Lord sets out His Instructions for performing the daily duties of married life.
By listening to these verses at the Gurdwara at our worldly marriage ceremony doesn’t mean that we have now automatically become brides of Akal Purakh. The Pati Parmesar will not accept us as His Suhagan until our Bandgi , our loving devotion, takes us to that level, and that level is the Karam Khand. It is the fourth Khand of Bandgi, one below Sach Khan. Karam means Eternal Blessings – Gur Parsaad, this is when we will go in to Smadhi and Sunn Smadhi – Ek Shabad Liv Laagee, this is when Simran goes in to Surat and Hirda and then eventually travels through the seven seas of spiritual energy and blossoms these seven lotuses of spirituality inside our own body, opens all our Bajjar Kapaats including Dassam Duaar and Trikuti:
Remembering God, the heart-lotus blossoms forth.
In Karam Khand ( Realm of God’s Grace) is when the real devotion (Bandgi) starts and it is counted in God’s court (Dargah). Then the Bandgi takes us to the realm of Truth (Sach Khand). The Sada Suhagan – Eternal Bride – is the highest spiritual status (Param Padvi), it is the Sant Padvi, it is the Padvi of a Brahmgiani.
So we become a Suhagan by moving our Bandgi to Karam Khand. We can then become Sada Suhagan when we are instituted in the Sach Khand, when we have completely won over Maya, and ourselves, and completely won over our mind and completely merged in Akal Purakh’s Nirgun Saroop. This is the highest spiritual state of a soul when one becomes a Gurmukh, a Sant, a Brahmgiani a Sada Suhagan.
Dassan Das (Slave Of God’s Slaves)