17
Jan, 2011

QN:
 Dear Preeto Ji,

Sat Sri Akal ji.  First of all let me thank you for your
beautiful emails which are indeed a treat to read ! They are like food
for the soul as well as are very awakening . Many salutations to
respected Dassan Das ji for blessing ignorant souls like me and
providing such in depth knowledge of the path ! I eagerly wait for your
emails which make my day !

Preeto ji, one feels very inspired and happy to read about members
in  sangat becoming Suhagans ! How to
become a Suhagan ? O dear friend, tell me too the path which leads to
this awastha (stage) ! Also i would like to know that when doing little
simran
that i manage to do with the grace of God, i do Satnaam Waheguru
simran. Is it OK? Waiting for your reply.
 
 
REPLY:
 
SatNaam Ji Ka Khalsa SatNaam Ji Kee Fateh – Khalsa is Truth’s and that
is Truth’s victory (over Maya)  – and that is each of our
destiny.
 
 
Dandauth Bandhana ji,
 
thankyou for your kind email.   When you are blessed
with the Gurparsaad of Naam – the Eternal Blessings, or the Grace, then
Satguru ji has placed your soul into KHARAM KHAND  – realm of
Grace.   HE has done that much for us, like the
engagement ceremony has happened and Satguru ji is the vichola (middle
man – “har dargah ka baseet”).   That much the
SatGuru ji has kindly done for us, and made us skip over the lower
stages of dharam khand (entering onto the spiritual path to Union),
gyan khand (gathering the divine wisdom) and saram khand (making
efforts).   In Kharam Khand your real spiritual
journey starts, like the SatGuru ji has opened your inner doorway to
your own teple of God (Hirdha / heart chakra) and given you the KEY of
GurParsaad of Naam.  
 
Now someone said to Baba ji, “just destroy my ego and put me into SACH
KHAND”  and Baba ji said, “no, Guru puts you into KHARAM KHAND
by giving you a boost from his own spiritual labouring.  But,
from KHARAM KHAND to SACH KHAND you have to walk.” 
Why?   Because Guru ji gives us the Gurparsaad of
NAAM & GYAN for free.  But, then we have to EARN IT,
means put it into practise into our daily life into our deeds into our
daily routine, whilst DARGAH (ALL SANTS IN GODS COURT INSIDE OUR
HIRDHA) IS WATCHING
US.      We have to “walk
the talk”, we have to defeat our five thieves, we have to destroy our
own ego and become lowest – gareeb and maskeen – poor and humble in
attitude.     Then when our
marriage happens with our KHASAM (GOD THE HUSBAND) on the bed of our
HIRDHA, then we are regarded as his wife – SUHAGAN.  And the
journey doesnt stop there, then we become more and more humble, “the
more you love God the more there is to love.”   But,
still at any time, even 1% of ego hiding in the shadows of your mind,
or 1% unfulfilled desires lurking in your psyche,  they can
easily take over and make you fall back down.  This has
happened to people in the sangat, they had all the spiritual
expereinces, but when the hharder tests came, they let their ego take
over (thought they were now the Guru, or didn’t accept Baba ji any
longer, or slandered him)  that is a big test, when you are
full of spiritual gifts, do you still stay humble infront of the Guru
that gave you everything, or do you know think you DONT NEED HIM and
are BIGGER THAN HIM.
 
There was a story of Kabir ji that in his divine state he saw God on
one side and his SatGuru ji on the other side, and then he got caught
by the thought of whom he should go and bow to first.  If he
went to his Guru then He is putting god in second place.  but,
if he goes to God, then he is ignoring his satguru’s
kindness.  Then Kabir ji realised the Truth and fell at the
feet of His SatGuru – because  SAT is the GURU – god is the
Guru, they are not seperate – that was the illusion that had to be
shattered.
 
But, many people in Baba ji’s sangat have not realised that, think they
have becoe suhagan, expereinced God one on one and dont need Guru
anymore, or think they are now they Guru.
 
Baba ji said that once we have been given GurParsaad of Naam by our
SatGuru ji then HE OWNS US, means He is responsible for ferrying across
our soul.  Wether it takes one lifetime or many lifetimes
because we become his slanderer or thnik we are bigger than our Guru
(ego).   But our SatGuru will keep coming back for us
for however long it takes for our soul to evolve into 100% humbleness.
And in the end, when Baba ji knws we are 100% stable, that we can never
fall back, that we have reached the unshakeable state (atal
avvastha)  then he releases us, and this is what happened with
a fwe humble souls like Dassan Dass ji – Baba ji has said they are same
as him and no serve directly God Himself.
 
That is SADA SUHAGAN – ETERNAL WIFE.
 
So as to what you have to do to become SADA SUHAGAN, just EARN what
Dassan Dass ji has given you- the GurParsaad of Naam, this
is the email he sent you – cherish each ETERNALLY BLESSED word:
 
“Satnaam Jee God bless you with the Gurparsaad of Naam Naam Simran Naam
Ki Kamai Puran Bandgi and Seva. Please focus yourself on Satnaam
Simran:
 
Satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam
satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam
satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam
satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam
satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam
satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam satnaam sada sada satnaam
 
This is your nitnem from today onwards, in early morning hours go in to
long sessions of satnaam simran starting after mid night and surrender
yourself with tunn munn dhan and dedicate yourself for naam simran naam
ki kamai puran bandgi and seva.
 
Please feel free to communicate with us. We will help you walk through
your puran bandgi.
 
Dassan Dass”
 
 
 
May SatGuru ji bless you.